June 6, 2006

Now You Can Be a Bad Boyfriend WHILE Gaming!

Filed under:Sexism, Videogames — Lake Desire @ 4:43 pm

Josh of Cathode Tan found this beauty: How to transform your girl into a gamer! From the article’s introduction:

HCG KP1gl37 here. Guys, we need to have a talk. Is this a familiar scenario for you? You come home from a long day of work or school and are looking forward to relaxing on the couch to play a few hours of your favorite game. Within seconds, your wife/girlfriend swoops in and starts harping in your ear, “I’m not going to spend another night watching you play that stupid game for hours…blah, blah, bitch, bitch, BITCH!” Tired of hearing the same crap in your ear every day? Want to play your games in peace? Better yet, do you dream of sharing your love of gaming with that special babe in your life? Well, you came to the right place. Straight from the mouth of a female gamer, I will give you some great tips and advice to introduce the woman in your life to gaming.

The first word I noticed in that paragraph is BITCH. Why is this hypothetical girlfriend/wife sticking around?

tekanji’s snark in response to this article, How To Transform Yourself Into a Misogynist Asshole!, is priceless. My favorite:

It’s not the women who are the problem in this scenario, it’s the men! No person wants to be treated as an object for their partner’s amusement in a relationship. The men being described here — and I know they exist, because I have had the unfortunate occassions to hang out with some such losers — don’t respect women, don’t treat their girlfriends right, and then wonder why they get dumped. Telling them that their problems will be fixed by getting their nagging bitches of girlfriends into gaming solves nothing. It just lets them believe the fantasy that they don’t have to actually treat the women in their lives like they care about them, and in that scenario everyone loses.

I think the article’s author is trying to get this type of guy to approve of her by saying what she thinks they’d like to hear. She’s trying to appease both camps, and comes up insulting both women and their boyfriends by painting women as nagging and suggesting men want women to be the ones compromising.

Who’s going to write a guide to getting boyfriends to game?



  1. OMG! That is horrible! My husband is a gamer, but occasionally he gets frustrated with whatever game (MMORG) we happen to be playing at the time. He’ll start complaining and sometimes even quit gaming for a while. I just go on gaming and wait for him to get over it. I also remind him about the ten other times that he got upset and frustrated.

    Comment by Breenaronan (5 comments) — June 6, 2006 @ 7:09 pm

  2. Who’s going to write a guide to getting boyfriends to game?

    I’m working on one of those, actually – stereotypes and all.

    Comment by Another Jeff (5 comments) — June 7, 2006 @ 8:20 am

  3. Yay! I’m excited to read it.

    Comment by Lake Desire (208 comments) — June 7, 2006 @ 9:40 am

  4. Another Jeff — You beat me to it. I was thinkinf of a comic book version when I saw that question.

    Actually, maybe I’ll hold a contest over at my blog…

    Comment by Ragnell (3 comments) — June 8, 2006 @ 1:13 pm

  5. http://heykidzcomix.livejournal.com/24707.html

    – Here’s a comic book version of “How to Get Your Boyfriend into your hobby”

    Comment by Ragnell (3 comments) — June 16, 2006 @ 8:21 pm

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